I have been asked the question as to what therapy is about and what it is like. This article about Holding Space is an accurate description of what therapy can be like. Therapy can be perceived as a shaming, controling and humiliating experience but life healing therapy is never meant to do any of this. In many ways it is these experiences of shame, control and humiliation that create the many struggles we face in our lives. Therapy is about holding and creating a different space for people, if given the opportunity, to choose a different course for their lives not controlled by the fears created by these negative experiences.

http://heatherplett.com/2015/03/hold-space/

A funny animated short by Brene Brown on Blame.

http://vimeo.com/117375823

This is a great animated short narrated by Brene Brown about the difference between empathy and sympathy. Empathy is feeling with other people and creating connection. Sympathy separates us from one another. The four qualities of empathy are perspective taking, non-judgement of others, recognizing emotions in the other person, and communicating that to the other person.

http://youtu.be/1Evwgu369Jw

What is Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy?

Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT) is a couples therapy developed by Drs. Sue Johnson and Les Greenberg. EFT utilizes attachment theory to help guide couples therapy in order to re-organize the interactional patterns and emotional responses in couple relationships.

http://www.iceeft.com/index.php/about-us/what-is-eft

This is a great reminder by Dr. Charlie Whelton, psychiatrist at Edgewood Addictions Treatment Center, how we can easily overstep the boundaries of responsibility and take over another person's responsibility to change their lives.

http://www.edgewood.ca/index.php?page=31&p=1536

A great article summarizing the 4 Horsemen of Relationships (John Gottman). The 4 Horsmen of relationships are communication patterns and attitudes that create barriers to intimacy in relationships.

http://www.marleneandbob.com/the4horsemen.pdf